you'll be okay.

lesbiangallagher

the 2023-2024 school year is quickly approaching and i am asking for donations!

wishlist: https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/FBYJ69SGL0TE?ref_=wl_share

i am a college/career advisor for 60 students every year and i have learned one big thing as an educator—organization is key. i am so happy to say that all 15 of my high school senior students from last year all are enrolled in a 2 or 4 year college/university for fall 2023 as first generation students and altogether have earned more than $400,000 in grants and scholarships for their freshman year 👏 i get results and will continue to get results!

now to do the whole thing over for a new senior class! in addition to helping my 9th-11th graders on their journeys! i love my job so much but i do need a LOT of resources handy since i travel a lot for work.

please consider buying anything off my wishlist; mostly there are some stuff to keep me organized and resources to help me to do my job a little better this year! i have a salary that keeps me afloat but these are some extra things that my job doesn’t cover or have readily available for their advisors. maybe if we get more funding in the future, but for now i am humbly asking for some help…

feel free to share and reblog! i really appreciate your help! you’d be directly helping a bunch of kids with stars in their eyes. they’re a bright group of students and i want to make sure i have everything i need to keep us all organized. obviously no hard feelings if you can’t assist but i will keep this post pinned on my blog in case you know someone who can!

thank you thank you thank you! ❤️

depression tips™

lesbianeliksni

• shower. not a bath, a shower. use water as hot or cold as u like. u dont even need to wash. just get in under the water and let it run over you for a while. sit on the floor if you gotta.
  
• moisturize everything. use whatever lotion u like. unscented? dollar store lotion? fancy ass 48 hour lotion that makes u smell like a field of wildflowers? use whatever you want, and use it all over. 
• put on clean, comfortable clothes. 
• put on ur favorite underwear. cute black lacy panties? those ridiculous boxers u bought last christmas with candy cane hearts on the butt? put em on.
• drink cold water. use ice. if u want, add some mint or lemon for an extra boost.
• clean something. doesn’t have to be anything big. organize one drawer of ur desk. wash five dirty dishes. do a load of laundry. scrub the bathroom sink. 
• blast music. listen to something upbeat and dancey and loud, something that’s got lots of energy. sing to it, dance to it, even if you suck at both.
• make food. don’t just grab a granola bar to munch. take the time and make food. even if it’s ramen. add something special to it, like a hard boiled egg or some veggies. prepare food, it tastes way better, and you’ll feel like you accomplished something. 
• make something. write a short story or a poem, draw a picture, color a picture, fold origami, crochet or knit, sculpt something out of clay, anything artistic. even if you don’t think you’re good at it.
• go outside. take a walk. sit in the grass. look at the clouds. smell flowers. put your hands in the dirt and feel the soil against your skin.
• call someone. call a loved one, a friend, a family member, call a chat service if you have no one else to call. talk to a stranger on the street. have a conversation and listen to someone’s voice. if you can’t, text or email or whatever, just have some social interaction with another person. even if you don’t say much, listen to them.
• cuddle your pets if you have them/can cuddle them. take pictures of them. talk to them. tell them how u feel, about your favorite movie, a new game coming out.

yournudemom

Circulating. Seasonal depression is creeping around now.

shadowjag

Lets keep this moving

hiddenpeace

Cats. Cats are nice.

Dealing With Executive Dysfunction - A Masterpost

compassionatereminders

• The “getting it done in an unconventional way” method.
• The “it’s not cheating to do it the easy way” method.
• The “fuck what you’re supposed to do” method.
• The “get stuff done while you wait” method.
• The “you don’t have to do everything at once” method.
• The “it doesn’t have to be permanent to be helpful” method.
• The “break the task into smaller steps” method.
• The “treat yourself like a pet” method.
• The “it doesn’t have to be all or nothing” method.
• The “put on a persona” method.
• The “act like you’re filming a tutorial” method.
• The “you don’t have to do it perfectly” method.
• The “wait for a trigger” method.
• The “do it for your future self” method.
• The “might as well” method.
• The “when self discipline doesn’t cut it” method.
• The “taking care of yourself to take care of your pet” method.
• The “make it easy” method.
• The “junebugging” method.
• The “just show up” method.
• The “accept when you need help” method.
• The “make it into a game” method.
• The “everything worth doing is worth doing poorly” method.
• The “trick yourself” method.
• The “break it into even smaller steps” method.
• The “let go of should” method.
• The “your body is an animal you have to take care of” method.
• The “fork theory” method.
• The “effectivity over aesthetics” method.

defiantsuggestions

Whatever hell your parents forced you to adapt to, you can unlearn.

It's hard. It takes ages. There's a lot of healing and introspection involved. You will make mistakes often, and there will be setbacks.

But it is possible.

You can learn to practice self care. You can learn to interact with your loved ones as an equal. You can learn not to bow to every order given. You can learn to put your needs first.

The skills aren't innate. It won't be as easy to learn new behaviors and social languages as it was when you were a child.

But the brain is capable of forming new pathways. You are capable of change. This is part of healing.

enchantedengland

Coastline in Dorset (@richies_incredible_britain IG)

quotemadness

“When your head hits the pillow tonight, remind yourself that you’ve done a good job. Be patient with yourself, and remember that big things are achieved not all at once, but one day at a time.”

— Nicole Addison